On the  recent calculated, violent demise of a young lady by her "friends"----out on holiday jaunt  ----

wealthy people I have studied --- (I am not just speaking about $) are cultivated, invested in themselves, and happy alone. They have more to offer than their bodily presence to others and invested in self-improvement causally as well as overtly. What goes on at home and in private is their greater treasure. Discretion is employed as a matter of course rather than an afterthought. They have something to lose, risk is not attractive its expensive. Not so the uncultivated, pop enculturated, the shallow. Having grace in social situations often among our people is misunderstood. A lot of us think its suppression or artifice. Some of us confuse it w/ hauteur, Its purest condition is being at ease to transmit LOVE. As it is unseemly to be completely intimate say in a public, raucous or risky place, it is unworthy to trust unvetted or those who have demonstrated contempt for you, repeatedly blatantly offensive people. Period.

Often naive folk expect their kindness or simply decency to be returned. They had this in their home, as a given perhaps and do not respond effectively to abuse. As this nation, hardens, coarsens, becomes more manipulated by its controllers, standards of interpersonal conduct fall. It is imperative to be conscious of that. It is important for some of us that understand to champion and provide example if at all possible.